I'll admit it (and I think I have before), I'm a reality TV fiend. I love bad TV. Love. Recently, a new show started. The third episode just aired in which all of the girls go to the prom with the guy (assuming most of the women had such horrible high school years that they didn't get to attend). The concept of the show is basically that fat people are capable of the emotion of love. So there is one fat dude, and a herd of fat girls. The fat girls compete for the fat guy. Hopefully it'll end in marriage (at least that's how they make it seem it will end).
I had really high hopes for this show. I was hoping they'd get some really confident big girls to be on the show. Of course I was wrong. I would say about 70% of the women cried during their entrance interview about how horrible their lives have been up to this point. Their weight held them back, no one loved them because of it, and life has just flat out sucked.
Maybe it's me? But my life hasn't sucked. I've dated plenty of guys and am currently dating a man who makes me feel incredibly loved, wanted, and damn sexy. I went to my senior prom with a date. I played lacrosse in high school and even got moved to starting on the Varsity team towards the end of my first season. I've never really been sad or felt held back because of my size. Sure, everyone has body image issues every once in a while, but I wouldn't say mine are above and beyond what any "normal" woman has.
It makes me incredibly sad and uncomfortable to listen to these women repeat that the guy on the show will love them for their insides and won't judge the outside. That, my friends, is a bunch of bullshit. That guy is looking at you the same as any other guy is. "Man those are nice tits"... "She's got a great face". He's definitely not interested in these women based purely on their personalities. It's just that he prefers bigger women. A thin girl to him is the equivalent of what a chubby girl is to a different guy. On top of all this... it seems these women don't believe their outsides are worth loving too. If you're looking for a man to love you for simply one half of yourself... then something is wrong. You should want a man to love you for both halves. He should find you sexy and mentally stimulating. Perhaps most of these women are not "more" to love and are really just a large group of incomplete women.
I understand that my expectations of women, let alone big women... to be confident and to create their own happiness isn't realistic. But that's what I expect. I had a date to prom because I asked my friend Andy. I've gone on dates with men because I've asked them. All of these things are choices. Make your own happiness.
I'm not completely sure how I feel about the show. I think it is good to have these really beautiful, big girls on TV. At the same time it's sad that the personalities (for the most part) don't match the bodies. This show, and this lone man... shouldn't give you the validation you need. I guess it's good if it does... self love (obviously) comes from the self. You shouldn't put your love, confidence, and hopes all on one other human being.
It's necessary to be ok on your own and love yourself.... because before and long after anyone else you're all you've got.
